
Do you know anyone who lost their job, spent the next year working on their resume, job sites, trying to get work. Then, after deciding to stop looking so hard, out of the blue, came a great job offer?
Is that a miracle or pure random chance? Or, perhaps, it’s a really great strategy.
I just heard a story from a friend of mine. She knows a guy who’s been out of a job for over a year. He spent the year working on his resume and sending it out. He’s on Internet job sites every day. He tries to meet with people when there’s the opportunity but there aren’t a lot of opportunities these days. And he’s getting more and more depressed. It’s hard to get out of bed but he does. He puts on a suit and tie, sits at his computer, and looks. Eventually, he figures, he’ll find a job. I’m sure he’s right.
The sad truth is that there aren’t many jobs out there. And most people feel beat down and discouraged about our current economic situation. Most have already accepted the fact that we are in this rut for the long haul.
The same applies to companies who have lost clients, whose revenues are down, who are scrambling for business. It’s a scary economic environment out there.
I was talking about this with a close friend of mine who holds a senior position at a large consulting firm. He sounded down—not depressed—but uninspired. We were commiserating about the environment when he said, “We’re going after anything that’s out there. This is not the time to be choosy. It’s not fun.”
We need to realize that there’s another way to go through these times with less pain and more success. There is a way to increase our chances of getting that job, of winning a new client and maybe even enjoying it.
Let go. Not completely, but mostly. Stop trying so hard. At most, spend 1-2 hours a day on it. Here are a few rules:
• Write your resume quickly and efficiently. Get the basic point across and then let it go. Same with a cover letter. Your resume is not going to get you a job. If you’re a company, the same holds true for your marketing materials. I’m sure they’re already good enough.
• Don’t spend time on job sites. It’s highly unlikely, with all the people who are looking, that someone will hire someone they don’t already know (or someone they know doesn’t already know). Same goes for companies: don’t respond to RFPs unless you already have the relationship.
• Spend all your hunting time with people: at lunch, on the phone, going for walks. Finding a job or new clients is all about human relationships.
If you aren’t going to spend all your time looking for work, how will you find it? Try these:
1. Make a list of all the things you love doing or things that intrigue you that you’d like to try doing. This is brainstorming so don’t limit the list or judge it; write down everything you can think of.
2. Separate the activities you do with people from the activities you do alone. For example, gardening, reading, meditating, and writing are alone activities. Volunteering to run a fundraiser is with people.
3. Look at the activities you do alone and figure out if you can (and want to) do them in a way that includes other people. For example, join a garden club. Or a reading or meditation group. Or write something that other people read (a blog counts). If you can (and want to) make them activities that include other people, keep them on the list. If not, then cross them off the list.
4. Now’s the fun part: Spend 90% of your time doing things you love (or have always wanted to try) with other people who also love doing those things. If possible, take a leadership role.
A good friend of mine has recently gotten involved in a charity organization she adores. So she met with them and offered to help in whatever way they needed. She’s now leading a monthly strategy breakfast with the volunteers and leaders of the organization. I’ve never seen her so excited.
A company I know is doing pro bono work for charities and the government. Everyone working on those projects is energized.
Why does this work? Woody Allen once said that eighty percent of success is just showing up. In my early career, a great mentor of mine told me to join the boards of not-for-profits and do what I do best for them. Other board members will then see the results and want to hire me or my company to do the same for them and their companies. That’s the obvious reason.
Here’s the more subtle reason this works. Nobody wants to hire someone (or a company) who needs to be hired to survive. Depressed is not attractive. People want to hire energized people who are passionate and excited about what they’re doing. Jobs come from being engaged in the world and building human connections.
Plus, if you’re passionate about what you’re doing, and you’re doing it with other people who are passionate about what they’re doing, then chances are the work you eventually find will be more in line with the stuff you love to do. And then … then your life changes (not to be too dramatic but it’s true). No longer are you, like my consulting friend said, “Going after anything that’s out there.” You’re using this crisis as an opportunity to do work you love, at which you excel, with the people you enjoy. You can’t help but succeed.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking: that’s a fine strategy if you’re independently wealthy, getting that nice fat trust fund check every week to pay for your gym membership (or mortgage or kid’s tuition). What about the rest of us? Our inability to pay the monthly bills might actually intrude on our ability to “enjoy” unemployment. I know how scary it is to be without an income.
And that fear is what you have to manage because here’s the kicker - It won’t take longer to find a job even though you’re spending less time looking. It’ll take you less time.
Pursuing things you love doing with people you enjoy will position you better to get a job; other people will notice your commitment, passion, skill, and personality and they’ll want to either hire you or help you get hired.
Also, actively pursuing other activities while looking for a job will make you more qualified for a job. Because in the end, you’ll be a more interesting person as you were when you started your search. When you finally get that job interview, you’ll be able to recount all the many things you’ve been doing (and will probably have a good time relating them) instead of saying that the only thing you’ve been doing for the past three years is looking (unsuccessfully so far) for a job.
The same holds true if you’re a company looking for business. Spend your time doing things that will make you a more interesting company to hire when the business comes back.
And even if it took the same amount of time to find a job, wouldn’t you rather spend your time doing things that are interesting with people you enjoy? Life is too short to stress out. Let go and enjoy the ride.
I just heard the story of a woman who decided to do work she didn’t enjoy for a few years in order to make a lot of money. Three years later the company went bankrupt. That could happen to anyone - Bad luck. But here’s what she said that I found the most depressing: “It’s as though I didn’t work for the last three years - it’s all gone. And what’s worse, I worked like a dog and hated it. I just wasted three years of my life.” Sounds familiar?
Take this opportunity. We need to do our job search or client search. But do it in a way that excites you. That teaches you new things. That introduces you to new people who see you at your natural, most excited, most powerful best. Use and develop your strengths. Show the things at which you excel. The things you love.
It’s well known that it’s unlikely you’ll get into a relationship if all you think about is getting into a relationship. The same holds true for finding a job (or, for a company, finding new business). However hard it may be, force yourself to do things you love with other people. Let the work find you.